"Is Happiness Measured On A Weighing Scale?"
                                     © 2006 Proactive-Qi.com

Our purpose in life is to seek happiness. This is the ultimate aim of all
people. No matter what our goals, dreams or visions, they all lead to the
same destination – happiness! We may seek more money, better career,
good health, pleasurable time, meaningful relationship and other finer
things in life. All these aspirations come with a price.

In Chinese astrology or Ba Zi, the price can come in the form of
destruction, clash, harm or punishment between the metaphysical
elements in our natal chart.

The question is “Are we prepared to pay the price and sacrifice a part of
ourselves in order to attain happiness?” Some of us are lucky to be born
with a sliver spoon and live a gilded life but most of us have to make ends
meet by sheer hard work. Whether we were born rich or started life at a
disadvantaged, happiness is not delivered to us on silver platter. We
need to look for it. Finding happiness and keeping it is a real challenge
as our journey through life is full of twist and turns. The road ahead can
be rocky, long and winding. There are times when we meet with
obstacles, stumble and fall, hurt ourselves and lost our directions along
the way. The journey of life can inflict extreme physical, mental and
psychological pain on us and it can be so unbearable that we begin to
question whether the end justifies itself.  In Chinese astrology or Ba Zi,
the pain that we endured is reflected by the 7 Killings star which bring
extreme stress and pressure.

Not everybody is created equal. At least it is not in the physical, mental
and psychological dimensions. Different people have different threshold
of pain or comfort zone. Some are weak and some are strong. Some are
risk takers and some are risk averse. Most of us are in between. We just
need to look for a comfortable level where pain and pleasure is at an
optimum balance. Imagine a weighing scale with two pans and a balance
where pleasure and pain weigh equally. Any excess on either side will tip
the balance. The trick is to maintain a comfortable balance with neither
too much pleasure nor pain. This is what we should do to maintain a
comfortable balance in our lives. Our lives are like a weighing scale on
which happiness is weighed between pleasure and pain. Our goal in life
is therefore to seek an optimum balance within our own comfort zone.
This is happiness created out of keeping a comfortable balance in our

“So are we willing and able to pay for the price of happiness?”

If we are willing, we pay for what we can afford because the price of
happiness is relative. It defers from people to people. Some may pay a
little to enjoy its value whereas some may pay more for the same return.
A poor man can be as happy as a rich man within one’s own comfort
zone. In other words, happiness is status blind! It is using what we are
born with, living within our means and hopefully, happiness will "see" us.

In Chinese Astrology, a person is born with innate characteristics and
abilities that are elemental in nature.  The elements are metaphysically
represented by wood, fire, earth, metal and water. These elements are
believed to be cosmic energies that radiate from the stars in the
constellations and that they give birth to all living things on earth. We are
infused with the energies of the five elements based on the configuration
of the stars at the precise hour of our birth. Whether we are destined to
live a life full of pleasure or pain depends on the elemental equilibrium in
our natal chart. The secret to happiness is keeping a comfortable balance
of the elements within us. This is the essence of Chinese astrology!
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